In today’s world, many people tend to adopt whatever values and qualities they find being displayed around them. One of these is vulnerability.
Many people assume that if they let others see how vulnerable they are, their vulnerability may be used against them. While this is not entirely false, Stephen C. Hayes, Ph.D. wrote a very useful book regarding the vulnerability, commitment, and acceptance of oneself. The book, A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters, has been reviewed by many people and is considered to be very useful tool.
What is This Book All About?
The book focuses on the ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy). The author gives a clear description of how humans should focus more on their personal values, including the following concepts.
1) What Hurts:
The author encouraged readers not to run away from their emotional pain. He is of the view that the hurt in life brings out the best version of oneself when the pain is channeled properly. When a person decided to dwell on particular shortcomings, vulnerability, and hurt, achieving full potential becomes a challenge. So rather than concealing what hurts, you should turn towards it and make it a strength.
The author encourages that rather than seeing each problem as something that needs to be solved, you should do your best to enjoy every moment. So regardless of how bad the situation might seem, everyone should your best to enjoy it and not just focus on solving the problem.
c) Psychology Flexibility:
From the book, psychological flexibility was introduced. This skill counters naturally instilled tendencies. It is indeed one of the most powerful approaches. It is not limited to any aspect of mental health, physical health, social processes, and physical performance. It is all-encompassing.
How is Psychological Flexibility an Important Value?
According to the author, the reason we struggle is that our minds tell us to do so. The mind tells us when to run when to hurt, and when to fear. It seems to always tell us to run from hurt and stop running when we notice love and caring.
But the truth is that even when we care, we will still hurt sometimes. So if running away from the fear of getting hurt and being vulnerable is what we must do, then we must also do well to run from caring. So since it makes no sense to run away from love and caring, Hayes encourages you to liberate yourself from the idea of always wanting to run away from emotional pain.
So, always remember that life is not a problem that needs solving. Embrace your vulnerability and do not run away from what hurts. If you do this, you would surely live a more meaningful and enjoyable life.